"Rewrite Beautiful was both informative and touching. After the assembly I found that I began to picture myself in a different way rather than just my appearance." – Alyssa, Student, Costa Mesa High School
December 2011 Blogs
Helllllllllo beautiful! The following is an article about my visit to Mary's Shelter. I wrote this for my column TRUE BEAUTY in Lifestyle + Charity Magazine. If you don't know what I'm talking about you need to get on it homie! Grab a peppermint mocha and enjoy!
I was recently asked to speak about eating disorders and body image at Mary’s Shelter, a shelter for homeless and pregnant teenage girls in Southern California. Many of the residents there were struggling with eating disorders. Can you imagine how excited these hormonal, pregnant teens were to hear that a pretty, nice, cheerful woman they have never met was coming in to talk to them about their freaky behaviors around food? Yeaaaaaaah…. Exactly, ”Welcome to The Lions Den Irvina!” Just to give you a little background, I’ve worked in an eating disorder rehab with the homeless and with teenagers –And I have come to the conclusion that there is ONE significant thing all of these people have in common…what do you think it is? Are you ready? Are you guessing? It is, they are HUMAN! Yes, ‘THEY’ are exactly like YOU and I. ‘THEY’ have feelings and are actually quite ashamed, scared and frightened of what lies ahead of their lives. Hmmm…maybe kind of like you and I? Considering I had this morsel of knowledge about these girls I’ve never met, I thought back and considered, in the past …
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So I know you’re all frantically running around right now trying to purchase with a purpose and politely avoiding the creepers in yoga class. BUT! In all that busyness don’t forget to make your charitable donation to prevent eating disorders aka DONATE your buck-a-roo’s to Rewrite Beautiful! Everyone makes their donations at the end of the year because they know come April Tax Time it really helps you if you've made some charitable contributions. Rewrite Beautiful is a 501(c) 3.
Give to Rewrite Beautiful + Get Money! Sounds like a Win/Win to me!
No DONATION is too small or too big! If you don’t already know how awesome an organization Rewrite Beautiful is check out our year end summary and plan for 2012 that we sent to our supporters. Thanks you for supporting Rewrite Beautiful and making better mothers, sisters, daughters, friends, girlfriends and aunts who know our worth is in not in our bodies, but in the way we treat others and ourselves! Happy giving!
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Happy Friday beautiful folks! Thanks for stopping by the blog! I know everyone is super busy with family coming into town and makin’ three different kinds of tamales – save the chicken ones for me mom!
As for me, it is my blogging pleasure to bring you the beautiful Mrs.Robyn as our Beautiful Girl of the Week! Check this hot-soon-to-be-sugar mama out! Robyn joined Rewrite Beautiful about a year ago when her friend Lindsey (my LGF) told her about our project to change how girls see beauty in themselves through art. Since then Robyn has been a huge supporter! Sharing her recovery story at our art workshops to help other women….Getting her parents to sponsor our TELEIOS Art Show ….and joining us on the Trinity Broadcasting Network to spread eating disorder awareness. Not, only is Robyn a Rewrite Beautiful supporter she's also a talented actress and personal trainer. Robyn has actually incorporated the idea of appreciating our bodies and loving them the way they were created into the Personal Training routines she teaches her clients. Rad huh? Robyn is a friendly, creative, kind and strong woman that we are proud to know and have apart of our team! So don’t steal her from us! Jst kidding …actually I’m serious…back away from our hot mama! Thanks for all your support Robyn! Rewrite Beautiful had an awesome 2011 because YOU were apart of our team! Big hugs and love!
I most recently turned 29 years old and I wasn’t the least bit freaked out until my little sisters asked me on the eve of my 29th year on earth “are you freaked out about turning 29?” Oh little sisters, their ability to innocently challenge, annoy and remind us of our mortality has oppressed the Princess ego of older sisters everywhere. Alas, I was instantly dethroned of the simple pleasures of a stress free 29th birthday.
Before I dive into the dramatic thoughts that went along with the change in moons on my 29th birthday I think we need to establish a few things. For one, I’m going to take the liberty to assume that if you are the Rewrite Beautiful blog reading type you are fully aware of the rumored plague that is called: female aging. From what I gather aging is accompanied by a few fears:
1.) Everyone is looking– The fear that everyone is looking at you and saying, “Oh, she’s that nice, pretty woman who was brilliant, but she never really accomplished anything significant.”
2.) Clothing – The fear that at any minute the 21 year old fairies from Forever 21will come knocking at your door and repossess all of your clothing. In exchange you will be left with nice wool cardigans, penny loafers and mom jeans.
3.) Sex – The fear that the opposite sex does not find you suitably attractive enough to have sex with. Leaving you horny and alone to fend for yourself pulling out your own gray hairs on Saturday nights.
4.) Babies – That your reproductive organs will start to curdle like spoiled milk and you will not be able to bake a nice healthy baby that resembles you and your non-existent lover in your womb.
I have heard all of these fears from women and some of them I have thought up all by myself (I’m such a big girl!) The funny thing about all of these fears though is whether you are 25 years old, 29 years old or 63 years old, every single one of us at one time or another will come across these fears. I think it’s up to us on how we react with to them. It may sound clique, but I think fears are kind of like the rain. We see rain outside and we have a couple of choices, we can either walk out of the house in our pajamas and get drenched or we can put a jacket on and grab an umbrella and stay dry. Like the rain, fears are inevitable, but we have the ability to shelter ourselves from their downpour. Let me paint you a picture….
So I’m having my 29 year old freak out. It’s a combination of sweating and feeling like I’m gonna cry, faint, throw up all at the same time. All the fears about everyone looking, the Forever 21 fairies, the desert void of sex and the babies I will never hold is running like a hamster wheel in my head. I remember a question a friend asked me a few weeks back, “What is your greatest fear.” I answered, “Not having my own family.” I realize prior to crying that I am 29 years old, coming to the end of prime child bearing years and without a primate to knock boots with . Then I hear the voice of my pessimistic father who calls me at 4 am just to say, “You do know that if you don’t have children before the age of 30 you’re more likely to develop breast and ovarian cancer…just wanted to make sure you were aware of that.” So to add to my list of fears, I’m pretty sure I’m dying as well. In the words of Irishgobeen : FML!
In the midst of the freak out I realize something kind of interesting, my alleged biggest fear has already come true. The truth is that I don’t have a family of my own right now and as much as that pains me to feel (and type) the fact of the matter is that my life isn’t all that bad. I have friends, family, passions and creativity that greatly inspires me. Though, my life is predominantly been void of romantic partnerships or children I have been able to enjoy the life of an unattached, free, not a care in the world, single woman who has not had to clean up anyone else's poop on a regular basis for the past 29 years. Sure there are things we all long for, but do we really need to drench ourselves in the rain and hyperventilate in the process? Or might it be a better choice to appreciate the place were in at the moment? I’ve done lots of wasting moments and I think it’s not only exhausting, but depressing. Instead I plan to take advantage of my 29th year on earth. I’m going to be writing more, working on publishing some of my work, continue working on Rewrite Beautiful projects, learning more about art therapy and possibly going to Grad School. I’m a busy gal focussing on projects that fulfill my soul and help coach the souls of others. Maybe helping yourself, others and taking an inventory of the things we have to be grateful for is the trick to getting rid of those monsters in the closet aka Forever 21 fairies? What do YOU think?
So the street art scene of New Orleans! First of all you need to know that the whole town of New Orleans screams artsy. From musical street performing bands....
to bands in every bar, to street art and street art installations. The place is two -legit. Meaning, it’s totally normal to see the likes of a Banksy just hangin’ out on the street corner...
I personally appreciated the apparent tangible ownership the public seemed to have of their little town. For better...
or for worse....
(On a side note, wouldn’t it be rad if someone started a project that purposely sought out graffiti artists and help them develop their art skills and connect them with public property to show their art on? Sound rad? You should do it! Just another little dream of mine.)
The Gray Ghost is a fellow who is on the street art scene but, isn’t a fan of it. The Gray Ghost waits until the art admirers like you and I are gone and then attacks the art! Yes, this dude totally kills the art, suffocating it with gray paint. Total buzz kill.
The project is a renovated cottage that is completely musical. You pretty much “play the house” the way you would “play a guitar”.
The house includes many of Swoon’s wheat pastes that she’s popular for
as well as some awesome random stray dogs and cats that are just chillin’ with the art. Animals have such good taste!
Here’s a video of me “playing the house”
Oh! And on my visit I developed a new medium of art with my family, I call it Shadow Love
I hope this post inspired you to go check out some art this weekend or maybe create some of your own!
It’s always nice when T.V. producers call you begging you, for your time ;) Especially when it has nothing to do with your 72 day marriage and everything to do with a cause that means the world to you: changing how women see beauty in themselves and preventing eating disorders. The Trinity Broadcasting Network aka ‘The television network with a little fetish for Christmas lights” which (besides the whole Mother Earth thing) I think does a pretty-good-artsy-job with those millions of tiny bulbs...anyways, those fine folks asked if I and a few other eating disorder professionals would come on their show Public Affairs. Apparently, the producer was enjoying her latte one morning and read this article about Rewrite Beautiful in the OC Register. She bookmarked it wanting to do a show on it.
I was accompanied on the show by the lovely Michelle Smith, LVN, the Program Director of The Victorian – eating disorder treatment center in Newport Beach, CA. As well as the lovely Robyn Baker, an eating disorder survivor. Both these ladies are incredibly intelligent, poised and gracious. And dude, Robyn’s apparently a veteran at this, she was once on the Tyra show to talk about eating disorders! Such a rockstar for recovery and prevention this woman is!
The show runs for a half hour and if I do say so myself we all rocked it with some really awesome and relevant information the public needs to know about eating disorders. Be sure to check it out!
The show is scheduled to air on:
January 13th at 10 am
January 16th at 8:30 am
January 19th at 3 am (*for my fellow insomniacs!)
Okay, so Rewrite Beautiful (aka I am) is laggin' just a little bit in the Beautiful Girl of the Week department...actually the whole blogging departments has take the back seat lately. I'm a big believer that on your journey to the top you shouldn't run yourself dry, so when the clock hits 6 and it's time to shut down work, I shut down and go home (or away from my desk...I work from home :) ) . Self Care is part of my Beauty Secrets ;) But, do not fear! Things are ch-ch-cha-changin' around here in 2012! We have some super duper rad new projects (including blogging) in the new year that I'll be talking about.
Now for our amazing Beautiful Girl of Week! She's so amazing, that she is also (or completely) a HIM! It's our wonderful, talented, inspiring, fuel for the engine, Workshop Leader, Sunny Siu! Sunny is our first, ever MALE Beautiful Girl of the Week! That's right, reproductive organs do not disqualify you from being beautiful! And I just had to honor Sunny for all of the incredible
work he has done with Rewrite Beautiful this past year! Sunny originally found us through our facebook page and said to himself, "What in the world is this girl doing? I want to be apart of it!" Besides having the courage to join the crazy's like me on their ambitious missions, Sunny is insanely gifted. For one, calling him creative is like calling the ocean 'wet'. Sunny oozes creativity! He has some huge and far out visions for Street Art projects that truly blow my mind. We collaborate on his awesome ideas and collaborate mine and the rest of the volunteers. We have gotten some pretty sweet workshops from it! Sunny also created some amazing pieces of art for the TELEIOS Art Show this past summer. They were incredibly moving and many people who have suffered from eating disorders told me that they felt that he captured the disease with precision.
So in order to be "beautiful" you must also be "kind" and "strong" which Sunny definitely carries in all of his interactions with others. Often times Sunny has been the only male at our workshops full of sometimes 20 + women who are talking about their inner most secrets and vulnerabilities. He has never experienced an eating disorder, yet his empathy for the disease and sensitivity to the workshop participants is incredibly genuine and heart felt. I speak on behalf of the volunteers and the Rewrite Beautiful participants when I say that Sunny is an incredibly beautiful human being and we are a 1000 times better of an organization for having him on our team! Thanks for being beautiful Sunny!
Rewrite Beautiful had a great time at Girltopia at the Los Angeles Convention Center! 10,000 Girl Scouts did some Rewrite Beautiful art and changed how they see beauty in themselves! We had some great conversations with the girls and their troop leaders about “What truly makes someone beautiful?” Answer? It's our ACTIONS! Change is happening people! Check out the photos of the girls art from the event here on the blog!
P.S. If you would like to see the WHOLE album of the girls artwork please visit the album we created on Facebook here.
P.P.S. If you're inspired by Rewrite Beautiful's work please share it with your friends and spread the Rewrite Beautiful message!
P.P.P.S. You're cool and beautiful! Bye!